The way that we have sex is the way that we live - In patterns and patterns in sexuality relate to kissing the same way and touching the same way

In patterns, there's no space for presence, for awareness, there's no space for the dance of energy, the expression and sharing of our eroticism. For most people it's about having an orgasm, and our pattern is geared to that, to reaching that, achieving that. That's the criterion for a successful sexual experience. Orgasms are just one, just one, possibility in the limitless sea of pleasure and sexual energy experiences. But when we're in the pattern, and the goal is to come, it becomes a limitation, it keeps us from exploring, expanding, opening, endlessly.

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